Tuesday, August 23, 2011

I have an idea

So, it's been a long time since I sent the letter of intro and still have heard nothing from my son.  I had an idea and wanted to know what people thought about it before I take the plunge and let him know about it. 

I was thinking that I would set up a private blog just for he and I where I could write about the people he's related to, give him medical info, tell him about myself, ask questions about him and his life.  He would have the choice of just checking in and learning without responding or using the blog to post back and forth.  Basically, I'm trying to give him a way to learn about himself without making the commitment of getting to know me or speaking to me, since he doesn't seem to be chomping at the bit to do that.

Some of my questions are, would this seem too pushy?  I would simply send him a message on Facebook, giving him the address.  It would be up to him to check it on a regular basis.  How much info should I divulge?  I thought I would keep it light at first, this is your sister, this is your grandfather, you look like him, etc.  I'd like to post some questions for him, don't want him to feel pressure to answer them, but also don't want him to think I'm not interested in his life, because I am very interested. 

I've said before that I have a hard time sitting around doing nothing, I guess this is a way for me to do something positive towards a reunion that might never happen.  Maybe he'll get what he wants through this. He'll get to know where he comes from if he wants that info, and not have to have a reunion with me.  Maybe, just maybe, he'll get to know that I'm not a psycho, weirdo, (let's not mention to him that I'm in menopause right now!) and maybe he'll take a step towards me sometime.

Whatcha think?


  1. I like the idea! Sort of an online scrapbook just for the 2 of you!

  2. Thanks for sharing your blog!

    I really really really hope your son gets in touch with you soon, and I think this is a great idea. It's creative and I think it's a lot less pushy than some other options.

    Good luck!

  3. Laurie - what a fantastic idea. I think I may borrow it.

  4. Thanks guys. I have about four post written for him. Haven't sent the facebook message yet. Thinking about sending it tomorrow. Geez, this is scaring the crap out of me!

    Melynda-borrow away!