Friday, November 4, 2011

I wish

I wish I was in a place in my reunion where I could write about how I feel about adoption politically.  I want to write about how infuriated I am that adoptees can't have their OBC's and I want to write about how shocked I am that people completely unassociated with adoption have no idea that altered birth certificates exist.  I want to write about how many children are stuck in foster care, children who desperately need and want homes and yet they are ignored because it is too much work for families to adopt them.  I want to write about how adoption should be solely for those children who have no options, who are abandoned, abused, discarded; how we as adults should be brave enough to step up to the plate and bring them into our families and love them, nurture them.  I want to write about how wrong I think it is that adoption has become about what is the best way to heal infertile parents instead of what is the best way to heal emotionally injured children.  I want to write about all these things, but I can't.  Not yet.  I can't seem to get past all my pain yet.  I still need this blog to help me heal.  I can't seem to write about others until I can see light at the end of my own tunnel.  I wish it was different, but it's not.


  1. I think most of us have been exactly where you are, wanting to educate more but not at a point in our lives where we can. I know I've been there and the one thing I have learned through that is even as we write our pain, our struggles, we are educating.

    Even as you are trying to heal, you are letting others know of the very real grief that is a part of adoption and you are a voice for other mothers who might be struggling and unaware there are others out there who feel the same.

    I think what you share here is just as important as any education post you might write in the future.

  2. I completely agree with Cassi! When I first started writing, all I wrote about was my pain. It's really all I still write about.

    You need to write your story here ~ people need to know what it's really like to live with adoption loss. How will society ever learn the truth if those of us who live it won't speak of it?